SLAKE AND SATIATE

A lot of people were acutely bored during the lockdown and it persists. The pandemic has seized most of our routine activities. Personally, whenever I have felt bore for long, it always leads up to frustration, demotivation, and anger. Hence, that is the last way I want to feel.  It is urgent to understand and eliminate such emotions.   Every emotion that we feel is trying to communicate something to us. Lack of work does increase our chances of feeling bored. But that isn't the only cause. Lack of quality of work that we do is the leading cause of such an emotion. We shall analyze the kind of work we are doing in our field. Quality of work is most important to feel content. Someone who has no objective can never feel content or motivated. It is crucial to have at least one passion and strive in that particular field. If not so, we will always be bored, and lose the idea of time. There are countless opportunities in this digital world. Hence, it is foolish to complain about not hav

The copious labels that we put onto ourselves, limit our growth. We don't see ourselves beyond boxes that we or the people around us confine us to. Career, money, looks, and religion are the only parameters we use to judge ourselves and get judged. That is how much we comprehend. We undermine our potential and subconsciously absorb what others think of us. If someone labels us as hideous, our mind gives us more than a hundred reasons instantly to believe it. Likewise, when we are deemed smart, we absorb it. We get so lazy that we don't even look within or analyze what we are. Most of us have fixed patterns. Some think too highly of themselves and overlook their shortcomings. Others undermine themselves so much that they forget all their gifts. Here are five things that determine us the best among all the chaos. 1. We are what we hide The parts of us that we rarely share.The chunks that we treasure and not display. Our secrets, our talents that we are too shy to enhance, our pas

We can’t just wake up and suspend people in our lives, but we surely can recognize the toxic ones and keep our distance. It’s crucial to be cognizant of the people around us.  1. Dishonest Honesty may not be the best policy always, but it is ideal in most times. There’s no-one worse than a dishonest person who lies frequently. I would place back biters in this category. Back biters are the sophisticated version of dishonest people and are a step ahead. They would lie to your face and talk behind your back.  2. Rigid These are the people who don’t fathom beyond their point of view. This is a person who would neither agree to your opinion nor will they let you have that opinion. They are aggressive and lack acceptance. These are people with a fixed mindset of right and wrong, anything which doesn’t fit their idea is already offensive. Rigid people fancy trolling because anytime they see something that they don’t approve of, they become nasty and mean. 3. Dramatic All of us want our lives

This is not to compare the Indian education system with other countries or to disregard it for its merits.There's always a scope of improvement and right now a lot needs to be reformed. Here are few things that need immediate attention. 1.Labeling A student is either excellent, average, or poor. That is how we classify and label children from the very beginning. To make the distinction more clear we further separate them with the notion that like minds should study together. This is sick. We are all changing. The fixed idea of intelligence is damaging. A person grows up with a notion of what they're and sets his/her goal accordingly. It is so easy to call someone talented and the other dull even when it's about basic learning in primary school. Besides academics, there is labeling even in co-curricular. An extrovert is considered good at co-curricular and an introvert bad at it. Even though there are great singers, dancers, writers, speakers who are introverts. The problem

The debate on nepotism has taken a spur. Suddenly everyone's talking about it. Weird how the audience talks more about someone after their death than when they were alive. Nepotism does exist and no matter how star kids would like to address it or deny its existence altogether, it prevails.  We talk about nepotism in Bollywood very often because it is one of the most sought after professions and it is there for everyone to see. Truth is nepotism does exist everywhere, from small shops to big corporations. We can't deny it living in a country where most businesses are family-owned. People in power tend to recruit employees who are relatives even though there are contenders who are more qualified or capable. There is no level playing field. Nepotism extends beyond just the recruitment process to promotions and all kinds of favor. We may have laws like  the Companies Act, 2013 , to keep a check on nepotism but to change the ground reality would require a lot more effort. Imagine w

Trolling is a disgrace to a growing and a rather liberal world.   There is a fine line between constructive criticism and trolling.  And is the line so blurred that educated, privileged individuals cross it so often? Is it so hard to understand? Aren't we enlighten enough to realize where we cross the line? Is trolling about what's trolled or just a projection of someone's melancholy or  insecurity? Is it just about anonymous people using obscurity to speak ill or also about individuals speaking up on behalf of the majority? Is trolling limited to what's said or posted online? Isn't it also what rigid minds do on an everyday basis? Firstly, what we commonly speak about. Trolling because of feeling unfortunate, insecure, and sad. Reactions of a bitter individual who feel unsatisfied looking upon rather content people. A behavior triggered by internet-gifted-anonymity where one is confident to utter lengths of nonsense without any fear of the consequence because their

Why are we so obsessed with our appearances. Does this dimension of our life deserve all that botheration? The race to look the best is doing more harm to women than body hair. This is not to praise the twinkle in our eyes or the glory in our smile, but to make a point that our obsession with beauty is mad-crazy. The way I look at it someone's attractive looks do no good to you. The present beauty standards are undermining, distracting, and destructive. It affects women more, on average women own 40 cosmetics. As long as you are not aspiring to be eye candy or to join show-biz, there is no need to freak so much about your looks. Can we just stop talking about who wore what at the party? Can we breathe and let people be. It is high time that we admire each other for confidence, sass, talent. Let us complement each other on what we do rather than how we look. We have had enough of airport looks, the gym looks, the event looks, behind scene looks, and many more, paparazzi never seems

Can you spot yourself? Love birds The filmy love story where both the person can't keep their thoughts or hands off each other. They wanna spend most of their time together. They showcase their love everywhere be it social media sites, workplaces, or a meet and greet. They can't live without each other and they know it. They may come across as cliche but that is how they like to maintain the pace in their relationship. One-sided This is a couple where the love of one of them overpowers the other. It may feel like there is only one of them in the relationship. He or she is probably the one who demands more time, show more love, and cares more for the other person. He or she shows more affection for the other, makes all the effort often without receiving any of it back. Off couple Their relationship isn't that happening. They are so much involved in their own lives that they hardly take out time for each other. They may be bored, too busy, or lazy to do what it takes to maint

Both the sexes have it hard, no one's life is easy or no one is free of problems, but the issues that men face are often not discussed or spoken about. The whole idea of "being a man" is vague and ancient. When norms are changing so rapidly for women, we still have the same ideas when it comes to a man. I feel that in this whole act of feminism, the struggle of guys is not being talked about. Men are still expected to do all the work, be the bread earner for the family, run errands, impress women, and not complain about any of it. They are expected not to project their emotions and always conceal them. Toxic masculinity stops them from turning up to a male friend, therapy, or parents for any kind of emotional support. Forcing them to become  "emotional gold diggers" , looking for all the emotional support and intimacy from a woman.They have to deal with rejection throughout their lives. Though safety is majorly considered an issue for women, men too are prone

Been jealous of your friends' blooming relationship? I have been there until I realised that you never actually need   a partner because common we are already just good enough chilling out with our friends and working on our goals. Though I can list   thousands of reasons to support my view. Here are just a few of them.  I am not a relationship nazi but relationships are taxing,to cater to someone's emotional or physical needs is tough. Life is already challenging, you don't want to be carrying someone else's baggage. People are unreliable, dishonest, disloyal and the list goes on plus anything may happen to anyone at any point in their life. Why take a risk, when it is not even worth it. A single-life brings you a lot of opportunities to explore yourself. You have more time and a clearer headspace. It gives you freedom,makes you headstrong and independent. I have seen people feeling suffocated due to there "obsessive" partners.Talking about "to